evawhite on July 7th, 2008
Is it a coded language men speak? A language perhaps that is representative, where one thing actually means another? What is it with them anyway??? It should not take a degree to figure out what it is that they actually mean when they say certain things, but sometimes it seems as though it does take some kind of ‘degree of doublespeak’ or something to figure out what they are actually saying! Women need help decoding this obscure ancient art of men, so I searched high and low and put together a reading list for all those women who require enlightenment:
Here is an excellent collection of deconstructions of statements that men make. Sample this:
He says: “I can’t find it.”
He means: It didn’t fall into my outstretched hands, so I am completely clueless.
He says: “It would take too long to explain.”
He means: I have no idea how it works.
Sometimes men actually mean what they say: When they say “I’m hungry”, “I’m tired” or “I’m sleepy” they may actually mean just that! For more decoding, however, look here, because when they say any of these things, “Can I call you sometime”, “Can I take you to a movie/dinner”, “May I have this dance” they all mean the same thing: “I’d eventually like to have sex with you”.
Then here, is an interesting bit of ranting obviously by a woman who’s learned to decode gobbledygook: “It’s not you, it’s me.” They actually do mean it is you. It is never them.”
““Of course I’m listening to you, dear.” This is usually followed by a few caveman grunts and a nod or two. We’re not really listening but we are paying just enough attention to not get caught watching the football while you describe, in excruciating detail, everything that happened to you today.” Read other gems like this one over here.
Here is another really good collection, sample this:
“Have you lost weight?”
Really means…
“I’ve just spent our last $30 on a cordless drill.”
“Woman driver.”
Really means…
“Someone who doesn’t speed, tailgate, swear, make obscene gestures and has a better driving record than me.”
And finally women, may I just end by saying that this actual statement may come in a variety of disguises, may be so covertly said as to be quite indecipherable, but beware! A lot of things could actually mean this: “I’m just not that into you”. If you need help decoding that one, may I direct you to this most excellent book that will clarify all for you!
evawhite on July 1st, 2008
This post is only for my female readers. So my guy friends can have a look at the other posts on the blog. I am talking about women’s lingerie.
There has been a lot of change in the trends of women’s lingerie which I have seen lately. The products have become more bright, colorful and bold. It is no longer seen as a product to be hidden, more and more designers are only lingerie designers. So what are you gals over there waiting for…..it’s time to change the lingerie wardrobe.
evawhite on March 7th, 2008
With Hilary Clinton’s recent advances reigniting the hope of a first woman president for the USA, and ahead of 8 March, which is celebrated as Women’s Day all over the world, I got to thinking, ‘is this day even relevant anymore’? Do we women need the patronizing attitude from the world that presumes to ‘help’ or ‘uplift’ women, or ‘better their lot’? My first reaction was indignation, because I consider myself a liberated and modern woman who does not need external crutches to get on with my life and do what it is that I want to with it. I think I have empowered myself and do not need someone else to do that for me!
I was amazed to discover that Women’s day came into being a hundred years ago when when 15,000 women marched through New York City demanding shorter hours, better pay and voting rights.
So this day dates back to the pre-women’s-liberation era! So they needed it then, but why do we need this relic from the past today?!! But when I introspected a bit, I realized that I am one of the fortunate few, and a majority of women in the world are not empowered, either socially or economically, or educationally.
In the less developed countries, there is still the practice of paying dowry to get your daughter married off. Female feticide (aborting a pregnancy when the fetus is discovered to be female) and even infanticide (killing girl children after they are born) are still shocking realities of the world. Women still suffer domestic abuse and violence, and this is no less true for the developed countries. These and many others reasons therefore, make Women’s Day relevant even today.
The international women’s day is an occasion for governments to take stock of the economic, political, educational and health situations that their female citizens are in and formulate policies and programs for bettering their positions. Women’s groups also take this opportunity to organize group discussions, distress camps, open sessions etc to give aid to women in need of succor. New initiatives for education both for the girl child as well as adult literacy gain new momentum at this time.
Here are some Women’s Day images from round the world that I found interesting and thought I could share with you. Women in Pakistan protesting for equal rights, sex workers in India demonstrating for their rights and women in Brazil demanding pension for housewives.
